We learn in therapy how to recognize that instinctual moment when our systems kick into high gear–often referred to as the “fight or flight” moment. Then we do everything we know how to calm that part of our brains so we can think rationally and focus on next steps. The important thing is to understand
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Its finally spring! Change is inevitable and the only constant in our Universe. If there was no winter, the spring would not be so pleasant; if we had not known adversity, prosperity would not be so welcome. Renewal , rebuilding, and regrowth are bound to follow the disasters, calamities, epidemics, or pandemics of the world
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“A year ago this was our last normal week and nobody knew it.” I saw this meme going around social media and had to pause for a minute and reflect. It is a strange feeling to know that almost a year ago, our entire world changed. I remember those first few weeks, how eerie it
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It’s a frequent refrain in my therapy office: “I’m a people-pleaser.” Clients say this to me all the time, often by way of explaining their willingness to sacrifice their own well-being for that of others — even sometimes for people with whom they barely have a relationship. Sometimes, it’s almost said with pride: “I like
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Boundaries Create Deep and Meaningful Relationships “An intimate relationship is one in which neither party silences, sacrifices, or betrays the self. Each party expresses strength and vulnerability, weakness and competence in a balanced way.” Harriet Lerner Setting and maintaining healthy boundaries can be overwhelming and uncomfortable. It requires knowing oneself and valuing one’s...
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Think of a time when you had a conversation that left you feeling raw, open, and exposed. That kind of feeling that you sense in your gut, not just in your mind. Vulnerability is where your truest thoughts and feelings come from. It takes practice and resilience to be in a vulnerable state without your
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*This post first appeared in January 2019, and was updated and reposted in January 2021.* Greetings, blog readers! From all of us at Lindsey Hoskins & Associates, Happy New Year! I think many of us are thrilled to see the end of 2020, and I hope that you are finding ways to be hopeful about
Read moreIf you and your partner are facing obstacles in your relationship, you should speak to the best couples therapist Sterling, VA residents trust. While it might seem strange at first to talk to a stranger about your relationship problems, it may actually be beneficial. Here are some of the benefits of seeing a couples therapist.
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It is that time of year that calls to mind memories of gatherings with friends and family around holiday celebrations. Any other year our schedules may be nearly overfull of parties, shopping, school plays, and religious services. This year is turning out to be quite different. For some, this means a quieter time of reflection
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It’s hard to believe we are in the last month of 2020; we have almost “made it” through this difficult year! I, like most of you, have spent most of my time at home with my family. I am very grateful for this extra time together, in part because it has given me the opportunity
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