People-Pleasers: Make Space for Yourselves!

People-Pleasers: Make Space for Yourselves!

It’s a frequent refrain in my therapy office: “I’m a people-pleaser.” Clients say this to me all the time, often by way of explaining their willingness to sacrifice their own well-being for that of others — even sometimes for people with whom they barely have a relationship. Sometimes, it’s almost said with pride: “I like

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Boundaries

Boundaries

Boundaries Create Deep and Meaningful Relationships “An intimate relationship is one in which neither party silences, sacrifices, or betrays the self.  Each party expresses strength and vulnerability, weakness and competence in a balanced way.” Harriet Lerner Setting and maintaining healthy boundaries can be overwhelming and uncomfortable.  It requires knowing oneself and valuing one’s...

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Be a Little More in 2021

Be a Little More in 2021

*This post first appeared in January 2019, and was updated and reposted in January 2021.* Greetings, blog readers! From all of us at Lindsey Hoskins & Associates, Happy New Year! I think many of us are thrilled to see the end of 2020, and I hope that you are finding ways to be hopeful about

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Gottman’s Four Horsemen

Gottman’s Four Horsemen

It’s hard to believe we are in the last month of 2020; we have almost “made it” through this difficult year!  I, like most of you, have spent most of my time at home with my family. I am very grateful for this extra time together, in part because it has given me the opportunity

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Reflections on Leadership

Reflections on Leadership

It’s amazing how impactful good leadership can be when we live in a world where there’s so much chaos. We’re currently living through a pandemic, an election, and a holiday season right around the corner. When we’re unsure of where to focus or how to proceed, we look to the leaders for some direction. We’ve

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Planning a Wedding during a Pandemic

Planning a Wedding during a Pandemic

For many engaged couples, the new year 2020 started off with the excitement of wedding planning and butterflies of anticipation for the hopefully fun-filled events ahead. The pandemic certainly changed many plans and delivered the gut punch of wedding postponement. Reasons for postponing or changing courses entirely were valid, although still painful. To the future

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Bipartisan Relationships

Bipartisan Relationships

As we head toward the 2020 election, the buzz of political tension seems to be all around us — on the news, in our social media feeds, and in our day-to-day conversations with friends, family, and colleagues. Not surprisingly, we therapists are hearing more and more about clients’ struggles to communicate productively with those in

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Thoughts on Telelife

Thoughts on Telelife

Wow oh wow, life has certainly changed over the past few weeks. Those of us who are fortunate enough to be able to practice social distancing safely at home have had some time to settle into doing the majority of things virtually. Distance learning has been quite the adventure for students and their parents. I’m

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How can I help you?

How can I help you?

It’s hard to know what to say sometimes. When a loved one seems to be suffering due to grief, anxiety, depression, or a multitude of other possible reasons, it can be difficult to find the right words. Saying the wrong thing might make them feel worse, and if you say nothing at all it might

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