People-Pleasers: Make Space for Yourselves!

People-Pleasers: Make Space for Yourselves!

It’s a frequent refrain in my therapy office: “I’m a people-pleaser.” Clients say this to me all the time, often by way of explaining their willingness to sacrifice their own well-being for that of others — even sometimes for people with whom they barely have a relationship. Sometimes, it’s almost said with pride: “I like

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Boundaries

Boundaries

Boundaries Create Deep and Meaningful Relationships “An intimate relationship is one in which neither party silences, sacrifices, or betrays the self.  Each party expresses strength and vulnerability, weakness and competence in a balanced way.” Harriet Lerner Setting and maintaining healthy boundaries can be overwhelming and uncomfortable.  It requires knowing oneself and valuing one’s...

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Gottman’s Four Horsemen

Gottman’s Four Horsemen

It’s hard to believe we are in the last month of 2020; we have almost “made it” through this difficult year!  I, like most of you, have spent most of my time at home with my family. I am very grateful for this extra time together, in part because it has given me the opportunity

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Seven Daily Habits to Reduce Stress

Seven Daily Habits to Reduce Stress

2020 has brought with it a host of added stressors to our daily living. We are not just sending our kids to school, we are sending them with masks knowing they could come home with a deadly virus. We are trying to help them learn from home when they are not used to having us

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Sleep, Move, Eat, Touch

Sleep, Move, Eat, Touch

With the start of school this week and next, the “unofficial” start of fall is officially upon us. Normally, this time of year would be filled with the smell of freshly sharpened pencils, the noisy chatter of kids getting on the school bus and navigating the hallways to their new classrooms, and parents adjusting to

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Grace and Gratitude In a Pandemic

Grace and Gratitude In a Pandemic

Parents, Teachers, Employers: We are headed into an unprecedented time in the next 6-10 months as we embark on a school year defined by a pandemic. Sure, we had a few months of emergency distance learning in the Spring but the expectations were much more relaxed than they will be in the fall. If you

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Bipartisan Relationships

Bipartisan Relationships

As we head toward the 2020 election, the buzz of political tension seems to be all around us — on the news, in our social media feeds, and in our day-to-day conversations with friends, family, and colleagues. Not surprisingly, we therapists are hearing more and more about clients’ struggles to communicate productively with those in

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Thriving

Thriving

As we are all aware, this current season is difficult in many ways for each of us. Perhaps you or someone in your family has or has had COVID-19; maybe you or a loved one is an essential worker; some of you have lost your jobs; others are working remotely from home. If you have

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Change

Change

We are two months into the new year; how are you doing with your New Year’s resolutions? Maybe you don’t make resolutions, or maybe you make resolutions and find yourself giving up after feeling like you’ve failed. No matter where you fall on the spectrum, many of us share a common desire to make positive

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