Thriving

Thriving

As we are all aware, this current season is difficult in many ways for each of us. Perhaps you or someone in your family has or has had COVID-19; maybe you or a loved one is an essential worker; some of you have lost your jobs; others are working remotely from home. If you have

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New Year, Same Grief

New Year, Same Grief

This New Year, I didn’t feel quite as ready as I usually do to set my unrealistic resolutions like running a marathon (disclaimer: I never will because I hate long distance running, but every year I wonder…) or KonMari-ing my entire house (every year I say I will but still haven’t). Unfortunately, a family member

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How can I help you?

How can I help you?

It’s hard to know what to say sometimes. When a loved one seems to be suffering due to grief, anxiety, depression, or a multitude of other possible reasons, it can be difficult to find the right words. Saying the wrong thing might make them feel worse, and if you say nothing at all it might

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Two Ingredients for Effective Discipline

Two Ingredients for Effective Discipline

One of the things I have the privilege to do is to meet with parents who are looking for support in connecting with and disciplining their children. Many of these parents have sought out counseling because they or their partner are unhappy with their approach to discipline or with the reactions they are getting from

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Where Are Your Boundaries?

Where Are Your Boundaries?

Summer is a special time of year where we often have the opportunity to spend extended time with friends and family. It can be a wonderful time of creating lasting memories, or it can be a challenging time of adjusting to increased interaction with others who can be difficult to be around. Others’ opinions and

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Give What You Want in Your Relationship

Give What You Want in Your Relationship

People who come to our offices for couples therapy generally enter the room for the first time with a list of things they want and need from their partners. The items on their lists vary, obviously, but a few themes stand out — more connection, more collaboration, more honesty, more support. Struggling couples come to

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The Happiness Trap

The Happiness Trap

Lots of clients come into our offices stating that they want to be happier. Of course, this is a goal that we support. Happiness is ingrained into our very consciousness, and is even part of the basis on which our national identity is founded (Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Happiness!). But recently I’ve been

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The Nurturing Father

The Nurturing Father

Family Therapy Sterling, VA In my work as a therapist, I have had the privilege to work with and know many fathers who are engaged in their children’s lives and in nurturing them to become emotionally healthy individuals. In a culture that often portrays dads as either insensitive, bumbling fools or angry, vigilante protectors, it can

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The Folly of Emotional Reasoning

The Folly of Emotional Reasoning

Individual Therapy Sterling, VA Today’s post is another in my series on cognitive distortions — problematic ways of thinking that can lead unhealthy self-talk and to problems in interpersonal relationships. You can catch up on my previous posts on cognitive distortions (mind-reading, personalization, black or white thinking, negative filtering) if you’ve missed those in the

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