What is Emotional Abuse?

What is Emotional Abuse?

“The scars you can’t see are the hardest to heal.” Astrid Alauda Are you in an emotionally abusive relationship? Emotional (or psychological) abuse differs from physical abuse in the sense there are no outward signs, thus, making it more difficult to recognize. In this post we will unpack what emotional abuse DOES NOT look like

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Honey, We’ve Got a Problem

Honey, We’ve Got a Problem

Summer always brings with it an influx of new couple clients, and I’ve noticed that there seems to be a trend in what these new couples are bringing to therapy. Perhaps because summer opens up some free time and creates a sense that we should get things done that we’ve been putting off, I see

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Where Are Your Boundaries?

Where Are Your Boundaries?

Summer is a special time of year where we often have the opportunity to spend extended time with friends and family. It can be a wonderful time of creating lasting memories, or it can be a challenging time of adjusting to increased interaction with others who can be difficult to be around. Others’ opinions and

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Give What You Want in Your Relationship

Give What You Want in Your Relationship

People who come to our offices for couples therapy generally enter the room for the first time with a list of things they want and need from their partners. The items on their lists vary, obviously, but a few themes stand out — more connection, more collaboration, more honesty, more support. Struggling couples come to

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The Happiness Trap

The Happiness Trap

Lots of clients come into our offices stating that they want to be happier. Of course, this is a goal that we support. Happiness is ingrained into our very consciousness, and is even part of the basis on which our national identity is founded (Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Happiness!). But recently I’ve been

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The Nurturing Father

The Nurturing Father

Family Therapy Sterling, VA In my work as a therapist, I have had the privilege to work with and know many fathers who are engaged in their children’s lives and in nurturing them to become emotionally healthy individuals. In a culture that often portrays dads as either insensitive, bumbling fools or angry, vigilante protectors, it can

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The Folly of Emotional Reasoning

The Folly of Emotional Reasoning

Individual Therapy Sterling, VA Today’s post is another in my series on cognitive distortions — problematic ways of thinking that can lead unhealthy self-talk and to problems in interpersonal relationships. You can catch up on my previous posts on cognitive distortions (mind-reading, personalization, black or white thinking, negative filtering) if you’ve missed those in the

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Men in Therapy

Men in Therapy

Individual Therapy Sterling VA Today’s blog is a guest post from pro lacrosse player Paul Rabil, with whom I have the privilege of working in therapy. Whether you’re a lacrosse fan or not, I think you’ll enjoy his perspective. – Lindsey I feel really lucky to have been a part of the Lindsey Hoskins &

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Ground Rules for Empathy

Ground Rules for Empathy

Couples Therapy Sterling VA As an early step in almost every couples therapy process, I spend time talking with my clients about how to effectively communicate empathy. The vast majority of couples come into therapy with the goal of improving communication, but many have a hard time articulating exactly what it is about the way they

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