Give What You Want in Your Relationship

Give What You Want in Your Relationship

People who come to our offices for couples therapy generally enter the room for the first time with a list of things they want and need from their partners. The items on their lists vary, obviously, but a few themes stand out — more connection, more collaboration, more honesty, more support. Struggling couples come to

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Tips for Effective Communication

Tips for Effective Communication

“Listen with curiosity. Speak with honesty. Act with integrity. The greatest problem with communication is that we don’t listen to understand. We listen to reply. When we listen with curiosity, we don’t listen with the intent to reply. We listen for what’s behind the words.” Roy T. Bennett   What is effective communication? Effective communication

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The Happiness Trap

The Happiness Trap

Lots of clients come into our offices stating that they want to be happier. Of course, this is a goal that we support. Happiness is ingrained into our very consciousness, and is even part of the basis on which our national identity is founded (Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Happiness!). But recently I’ve been

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Be a Little More in 2019

Be a Little More in 2019

Greetings, blog readers! Here is the first post of 2019 — a full slate of 52 blog posts stretches out before us, along with the many other new and exciting things that I’m sure will fill this year for you. From all of us at Lindsey Hoskins & Associates, we hope you had a wonderful

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“If You Really Loved Me…”

“If You Really Loved Me…”

When a new couple enters my office to start therapy, one of the things I always make sure to discuss in their first session is what their goals are — I want to know what each person is hoping to get out of therapy, and I want to hear how similar or dissimilar their goals

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The Folly of Emotional Reasoning

The Folly of Emotional Reasoning

Individual Therapy Sterling, VA Today’s post is another in my series on cognitive distortions — problematic ways of thinking that can lead unhealthy self-talk and to problems in interpersonal relationships. You can catch up on my previous posts on cognitive distortions (mind-reading, personalization, black or white thinking, negative filtering) if you’ve missed those in the

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All or Nothing vs. Shades of Gray

All or Nothing vs. Shades of Gray

Couple Therapy Sterling, VA This week’s blog post takes us back to our tour of cognitive distortions, or problematic ways of thinking that can get in the way of healthy relationship functioning. As I’ve shared in some of my previous posts (Don’t Take it Personally, Change Your Filter), these irrational thought patterns disrupt healthy self-talk

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Men in Therapy

Men in Therapy

Individual Therapy Sterling VA Today’s blog is a guest post from pro lacrosse player Paul Rabil, with whom I have the privilege of working in therapy. Whether you’re a lacrosse fan or not, I think you’ll enjoy his perspective. – Lindsey I feel really lucky to have been a part of the Lindsey Hoskins &

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