Be a Little More in 2019

Be a Little More in 2019

Greetings, blog readers! Here is the first post of 2019 — a full slate of 52 blog posts stretches out before us, along with the many other new and exciting things that I’m sure will fill this year for you. From all of us at Lindsey Hoskins & Associates, we hope you had a wonderful

Read more
“If You Really Loved Me…”

“If You Really Loved Me…”

When a new couple enters my office to start therapy, one of the things I always make sure to discuss in their first session is what their goals are — I want to know what each person is hoping to get out of therapy, and I want to hear how similar or dissimilar their goals

Read more
The Folly of Emotional Reasoning

The Folly of Emotional Reasoning

Individual Therapy Sterling, VA Today’s post is another in my series on cognitive distortions — problematic ways of thinking that can lead unhealthy self-talk and to problems in interpersonal relationships. You can catch up on my previous posts on cognitive distortions (mind-reading, personalization, black or white thinking, negative filtering) if you’ve missed those in the

Read more
All or Nothing vs. Shades of Gray

All or Nothing vs. Shades of Gray

Couple Therapy Sterling, VA This week’s blog post takes us back to our tour of cognitive distortions, or problematic ways of thinking that can get in the way of healthy relationship functioning. As I’ve shared in some of my previous posts (Don’t Take it Personally, Change Your Filter), these irrational thought patterns disrupt healthy self-talk

Read more
Men in Therapy

Men in Therapy

Individual Therapy Sterling VA Today’s blog is a guest post from pro lacrosse player Paul Rabil, with whom I have the privilege of working in therapy. Whether you’re a lacrosse fan or not, I think you’ll enjoy his perspective. – Lindsey I feel really lucky to have been a part of the Lindsey Hoskins &

Read more
Ground Rules for Empathy

Ground Rules for Empathy

Couples Therapy Sterling VA As an early step in almost every couples therapy process, I spend time talking with my clients about how to effectively communicate empathy. The vast majority of couples come into therapy with the goal of improving communication, but many have a hard time articulating exactly what it is about the way they

Read more
Oh, Ben

Oh, Ben

Family Therapy Sterling VA This week’s blog comes in the form of a guest post from my friend Amanda Strand. Amanda is someone I met during my days teaching group fitness classes; she is an energetic, inspiring, and thoughtful person with whom I felt an immediate connection. Today, she’s the creator of BANG Power Dance and

Read more
Pushing Buttons

Pushing Buttons

Couples Therapy Sterling VA If you’ve been in a relationship for any length of time, I’m sure you can think of ways that your partner “pushes your buttons,” or activates emotional reactivity in you. Couples frequently tell me about ways that they touch a nerve, push a button, or poke at a soft spot in their

Read more